MP900438752With wedding season upon us and after the delightful news of my son’s recent engagement, I was thinking about social media protocol at a time such as this. I was blessed to be able to go with him during the ring selection and his greatest fear was news spreading on social media before the big reveal. I told him he should break the news to his sister before the event and even then he called her the day before continuing to stress not to post anything.

Times certainly have changed. News travels very fast. Once the ring was on his fiancés finger, Facebook posts, photos and video ran like wildfire. I must admit it was nice to share the moment this way since they live nearly 300 miles from us.

Now his fiancé is posting wedding ideas like crazy from Pinterest and I called her this evening to poke fun at her favorite pastime (although I admit that once I knew of the impending engagement, I too spent time in Pinterest dreaming of the upcoming wedding.)

Social media is used by 70% of couples to plan, shop, register and share wedding information with friends and family. In 2011, 569,540 tweets included the hashtag #mywedding and another 196,185 included #ourwedding. By 2012 this number increased and is once again on the rise for 2013. Technology is used frequently as couples create websites, Facebook pages, etc. to manage RSVP’S, stream videos and keep family and friends informed. It is also the best way to keep in contact with vendors for the big event.

Thoughts for the Bride and Groom

Don’t post too many details about the shower, wedding or reception. It will take the excitement out of each event. Keep the details to the day. Such posts can also be painful to those not invited.  Keep posts short and sweet leaving a little mystery.

It is not necessary to link to your registry. This information should only be sent with invitations. All invitations should be sent via US mail in proper fashion. This should avoid your invitation from going viral and your guest list kept under control.

Inform your family and friends your personal desires related to the posting photos or details. Ask them to kindly respect your wishes.

There are wedding sites available to create your own personal website. In doing so you can post things such as events, days, times, etc and those who are genuinely interested (such as your wedding party) can visit on their own to keep up to date on details. This is better than broadcasting details on Facebook to all you’ve friended, especially those who may not make the list of invitees.

Family and Friends

Turn off your phone and be fully present in the wedding fanfare. Don’t interfere with the photographer. Stay in the moment and enjoy the wedding. It is not necessary for everyone to be clicking away and tweeting to those that were not invited. Don’t post photos without permission of a bride and groom or at very least don’t post any until they do out of respect. Allow them their joy in sharing first. Remember your manners and be socially responsible.

Technology advancements continue to enhance every aspect of our lives. So as we learn to grow and adapt let’s just remember to respect and utilize our social graces with common courtesy.

Penny Jones, is a blogger and social media content writer at WebWorld Advantage. WebWorld Advantage, is a company in Howell, Michigan dedicated to innovation in Social Media, Email Marketing, Marketing Consulting, Training and Education in Livingston County, serving Southeast Michigan and beyond.